Plus Size Lingerie: A Fat Femme Shopping Guide

Being fat or plus sized, it can be hard to find clothes that fit your body, let alone sexy lingerie to make you feel beautiful and desired.

I got really into lingerie in 2016 when a vintage lingerie shop opened up in a neighborhood near mine. I was a couple of years out of college and had gained a ton of weight that I had lost back. I was also embarking on a new relationship, and was desperate to feel sexy again. This lingerie shop had beautiful, lacy, and silky babydoll dresses and body suits. I would take dates there and spend money I didn’t have on one-of-a-kind items.

Now, my lingerie shopping has moved online, and as a size 20, I’m slightly outside the range for most vintage, small-batch lingerie shops. But there are a few that make pieces that are either in larger ranges or custom pieces that can be made to your exact measurements.

Finding lingerie that fits your body might seem like its not a big deal, but I firmly believe that everyone deserves to feel good in their bodies, and if feeling good means putting on a velvet teddy, then you should have that option available to you.

Here are a few places to find lingerie for plus-sized femmes, whether you’re looking for classic black or colorful pieces.

Classic Black Pieces

I wanted to have classic black pieces because they are a staple like a good blazer or a little black dress. The idea that black is slimming doesn’t factor in at all here, but the fact that black is a universally flattering color definitely does. I myself have a few pieces of black lingerie and those are the ones I feel the sexiest in, and I think that’s a universal feeling for many.

Monique Morin Lingerie (Up to Size 4X)

Pink and Red Pieces

Pink and red lingerie just screams “special occasion” to me. Whether you want to wow your partner on Valentine’s Day or you just want to take some hot Instagram pictures, these pink and red pieces will make your skin tone pop, and stand out on their own. Red is definitely sexier but pink has a bit more playfulness to it that can be incredibly attractive as well.

Love, Vera (Up to 4X)

Two images of a plus size Black woman with a short black afro. She is wearing a mesh red teddy with a thong back and pink lace on the edges, the second image is the same woman but from the back — showing that the teddy is connected by red straps and a red mesh thong.

Embroidered Heart Teddy in Red and Pink ($74)

Playful Promises (Up to 44K and 22)

Two photos of the same model, a black woman with a large afro, roughly a size 12-14. In the first image she is wearing a pink mesh underwire bra, in the second she is photographed from the back, displaying her pink mesh underwear.

1. Ziggy Lace and Spotted Mesh Bra in Pink ($52) // 2. Ziggy Lace High Waisted Underwear in Pink ($33)

Hey Mavens (Up to 10X)

A red velvet soft bra and high waits panties are thrown against a pink background.

Velvet Lingerie Set in Red ($116)

Skin Tones/Nude Pieces

Nude lingerie pieces in all shades are just indescribably sexy. Look like your wearing nothing at all and show off your body in any of these nude/skin tone colored pieces. These are perfect for photoshoots or just to wear on a day when you want to boost your confidence a bit.

Love, Vera (Up to 4X)

A plus size black woman in a Lingere teddy that matches her warm almond skin tone. She has short cropped hair and white nails. She is on the beach.

Nude Allover Lace Thong Teddy in Manuka Honey ($44)

Off the Tongue (Up to 2X With Custom Sizing)

A white woman in a blush lace bra and blush lace panties that compliment her skin tone. She's kneeling on a bed. She is holding a dildo in her right hand, attached to the harness, the dildo is also blush colored.

LANEY Crotcheless Brief with Strap On Harness (£75)

Bully Boy Handmade Lingerie (Up to Size XXL)

A white woman in a mesh body suit with long sleeves is wearing a gold medal mask as a headband and has a brunette ponytail.

Roy Bodysuit in Brown ($140 CAD)

Impish Lee (Up to 44J and 30 With Custom Sizing)

Two photos of the same model, a plus size light skin black woman in lingerie. In the first photo she is facing the camera with her right hand in her afro, showing off a nude colored bra. In the second photo she faces away from the camera, showing off the matching nude high waist panties.

1. Juniper Lace Edge Bralette ($122) // 2. Juniper Lace Edge High Rise Panty ($90)

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